Good evening guys and girls.
Well, what a week it has been. Ive been so busy with university work, as well as advertising this very blog. It feels like only yesterday that I last updated you all on my online dating escapades.
So, last week I said that we would hopefully be getting a male perspective on dating via the internet. So unfortunately, the guy I had arranged to write something was, like me, so busy this week. Therefore, what I have done is I have outsourced some opinions via google searches, and asking people via my personal online dating profile.
What I have seen online is that a lot of guys originally join up to dating sites with a lot of heel-dragging. I think their pride gets in the way, as happens with a lot of things in their life, and they think that they are being seen as desperate. However, I think, like us, they find it hard to decide what sides of their personality to put across on their profile.
One guy said to me:
“I struggled with writing long lists about myself, and feel like im just window shopping”.
Initially, I thought to myself that the term window shopping is a bit harsh. However, I slowly realised that that is all we are doing anyway. Window shopping for a person who looks like someone we could get on with, before (with much trepidation in a lot of cases) casually bowling into the store to peruse the goods first hand via some in-site messaging.
Another guy told me that he felt an unspoken obligation to make the first move when a woman had viewed his profile and he liked her. This is something I find interesting, as you would think that in this day and age, men and women both understood that we are equal and that a woman, if she desired, could send the first message to a guy to let him know that she is interested, surely? Apparently not.
So, what I can surmise from my short (and very brief, sorry readers) survey is that men feel like they are obliged to make the first move, even though, sometimes, they would quite like a woman to message them first. So Girls, next time you are looking for a guy, whether it be online or out in the ‘real world’, maybe take the lead and show your confidence by talking to him first. And guys, if you have any opinions or perspectives on dating (in any form) please contact me, as I would love to hear them.
Ok, so on to my next topic: speed dating. Now, I know you are all going to shoot me, but I was planning on going on a speed dating night, but i bottled it. I know I know, im terrible. However, when I looked at it in the clear light of day, i realised that I hate talking to people I dont know when Im in a comfortable environment, so how on earth am I going to survive in an environment I dont know with a bunch of strangers? Nah, it was never going to happen. However, next week I will be interviewing a couple who have been together for 5 years and who met through a speed dating event. This is very exciting. I hope to ask them about their experience, and also whether they had any experiences during speed dating which were less than fantastic.
So I hope you can join me next week for that. I am so sorry that the post this week hasn’t been what I had planned. However, sometimes life just gets in the way. Please contact me via email (single20odd@gmail.com), facebook (http://www.facebook.com/single20odd) or on twitter (@single20odd) with any stories about your own experiences, or just to let me know what you think of the blog. Once again, thank you for reading, and make sure you join me next week.
Bye for now, C.
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